Whether mothers who leave their jobs after childbirth, love their children more than those who continue to work? Surely you are experiencing such comments in your environment.
Preparing the kids for kindergarten or school, fast breakfast, five minutes for grooming and run not to be late… This might look like every day routine of most working mothers. We can call it early morning madness. And then eight hours later, the similar scenario – cooking, playing with the kids, learning with them etc. Everything is of course much easier if the dad is one of the actors in this everyday scenario.
For all these reasons it is not surprising that being a working mother is particularly demanding role. Despite this environment accuse you that you don’t love your child as the mother who decided not to work and be a housewife. While it is much easier to step back and stop heed to rumors of neighbors and relatives, what to do when your own child asks you questions like this: “Mom, do you like your job more than me and my brother?” or “Mom, why do you keep working and then you say we don’t have enough money?”
You can tell your kids that you are working because you love to work, and because that way you earn money for living and for all the things they want or they need. Tell them you were working even before they were born. Ask them what makes them say that you don’t love them as much as your job. Encourage your kids to speak freely. Try to get to the root of this statement. Is your child upset because you broke a promise? Or he or she is feeling un-noticed because you are always talking about work? Listen to them without interrupting. Then finish reaffirming for your child: “ Even when I am working, you are my top priority. I love you very much! I am sorry if my behavior made you think any differently. You have to make it clear that you love them more than anything in the world, and if it were necessary to choose between a career and a children always and without thinking choose them.
It can help if you get your child involved in the work. Inviting your child to help you make decisions about your work, can help them to feel included in the work.
If you give your child lots of love, hugs and attention throughout each day, then your child won’t be afraid from your work. When it is time for you to work, she or he will not be upset, because they will know there is no shortage of love, and they have nothing to fear.
Every day show your kids that you love them. No matter how busy you are, spend time with them, play with them, and talk with them. Expressing your love this way can ensure that your child feels secure in your love. Even when you are at work, away from home your child will know that he or she is loved.
