If you've ever been curious about having a threesome but also a little intimidated, that's normal — there's a lot to consider. Do you want to be the unicorn of the threesome, or find a unicorn with your partner? Should you do it with friends or strangers? Will it be awkward? As a very nervous twentysomething woman who had a sober threesome with a friend and lived to tell the tale, here are the biggest takeaways I learned from the experience.

1. It's less awkward than you think. As someone who thinks regs one-on-one sex is already ripe with awkward silences, I was not optimistic about group sex. However! My fears were quickly quieted when I realized that half the fun of being in a threesome is watching. You don't need to spend every second doing something crazy. It's totally fine to go with the flow and watch a bit before jumping in when you feel comfortable.

2. It's not going to ruin your friendship unless you let it. If you have a threeway with another single friend, don't spend too much time worrying about whether or not this will make things awkward for the both of you in the future. Just because you hooked up once doesn't mean you have to again! Just make sure you check in with your friend before and afterwards and are clear about what you're both expecting from it.

3. It's not "slutty," period. And can we retire that word while we're at it? I know threesomes are interesting in part because of their novelty but don't let that scare you away from doing it if you're truly curious about it. You do you, girl!

4. The pillow talk afterwards is actually fun. Have you ever laid in bed after a hookup talking to a guy, and thought about how [insert friend's name here] would have so much to add to the conversation? Good news! Now she can.

5. Communication is really important. Multiple times throughout the night, my friend asked me if I was into the direction that things were moving in, checking in with me, etc. It was really important for our enjoyment of the night because neither of us felt like boundaries were being crossed or we were being pushed to do anything we weren't 100% about. Plus, when I think back to that night (which, let's be real: is half the fun) I can feel good about knowing that everyone had a safe and comfortable time.

6. You don't have to worry about being left out. But what if he likes making out with her more than me?! Sure, there could be moments where it's a bit unbalanced, but trust, no guy is going to just ignore the chance to go back and forth with two women at the same time. It'll even out.

7. You'll probably laugh a few times. Just the physics of three bodies trying to bone is bound to create some laughs. Go with it! Not everything has to be a sexy montage from Fifty Shades.

 

Source http://www.cosmopolitan.com

All content on this Web site, including medical opinion and any other health-related information, is for informational purposes only and should not be considered to be a specific diagnosis or treatment plan for any individual situation. Use of this site and the information contained herein does not create a doctor-patient relationship. Always seek the direct advice of your own doctor in connection with any questions or issues you may have regarding your own health or the health of others.