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Pay Attention Girls: 4 Things All Guys Do When They Are Still In Love With Their Exes!!!

If you're inclined to think your boyfriend might not be completely over his ex-girlfriend, there are probably several reasons for your suspicion.

Maybe you've found him weeping while looking at his phone, mumbling, "I wish I knew how to quit you." Maybe he's calling out her name in the middle of the night, or, even worse, has mistakenly called you her name. Maybe he still has one of the shirts she left at his place and you've caught him sniffing it.

More likely though, it isn't a completely egregious and blatant relationship violation, but something subtler that indicates he's not quite emotionally ready to be dating at the moment.

“If your new boyfriend is constantly talking about his ex, spending time on the phone with her, meeting up with her (without including you), comparing you in a way that makes you feel less than her, these all point to the possibility of him still being connected to her in some way," says Jane Greer, Ph.D., sex therapist and author of What About Me? Stop Selfishness From Ruining Your Relationship.

In other words, if your boyfriend is doing any (or all) of the below, there’s a chance he might still be holding a candle for his ex-flame. 

THEY TALK—OFTEN

It's not exactly fair to expect him to completely shut his ex out of his life—unless she's very clearly still warm for his form—because that's not cool. But if they're talking all the time it's not out of the realm of possibility that he still has feelings for her. “Either he feels guilty that he left her, or he isn't over her," says Greer. "He's still remaining overly involved. If this is the case, talk to him about whether he's really ready to be in a new relationship with you.”

Sure, maybe they salvaged a platonic relationship—or maybe he's keeping in touch in case things don't work out with you. Dudes occasionally view exes as safety nets. 

HE DOUBLE TAPS AND LIKES HER SOCIAL POSTS ON THE REGULAR

We'd probably all be better off not following our exes on the Facebook, the Instagram, and the Twitter—especially when they post hot selfies that we still drool over. But a complete digital freeze-out isn't always something a guy wants to do. You see, a block or unfollow can create post-relationship drama, and it can also make things even weirder when you have mutual friends. 

HE CONSTANTLY HATES ON HER

It's completely understandable if he's a little bitter, but if he's saltier than #SaltBae and going out of his way to talk about how much she sucked, sound the alarm. He might be trying to remind himself why he's not with her in an attempt to convince himself he's better off.

YOU KNOW MORE ABOUT HIS EX THAN YOU SHOULD

If he's constantly saying things like, "My ex never appreciated American Pickers like you do!" Or "She always texted other people while we're at dinner." Head for the hills. It may sound like a compliment, but he's just comparing you to her. And you should run.

 

Source http://www.womenshealthmag.com

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